19 Dec 2011

Your house is only as big as your hospitality

I am a reluctant renter.

Have been for years.

Our house is small, it has faux bricks that constantly fall off the kitchen walls and carpets that, well, let’s just say we have three kids under the age of six and leave the rest up to your imagination.

For years my small house has stunted my hospitality.

Maybe you’re like me. Maybe this holiday season has you hyperventilating at the thought of your house being exposed for all to see how small or cramped or imperfect it is.

May I share what I recently learned about my small, small house and the ten people who slept over one night?

Because what if the size of your house, my friends, is in your hands?

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  1. 1

    Beautiful article about hospitality! That reminds me to think more how many of my limitations are only in my head. My dear people come to visit me and be with me and my family, they do not come to evaluate the size of my apartment or bank account :-)
    Thank you for sharing!

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      thegypsymama says:

      “they do not come to evaluate the size of my apartment or bank account.” yes and Amen!

  2. 3

    We are so hard on ourselves and our homes. We don’t have a huge home either, and I’m learning small houses make tight families. That’s really all I need to know. : )

  3. 5

    One of my favorite childhood memories: We had a family visit that had a bushelful of kids and with myself and my 3 siblings we made for quite a household. (We did have you beat with 1.5 bathrooms!) What fun!!! We slept all over the place! Of all the people my parents shared their home with, this is the one that I remember and it always puts a smile on my face.

    I don’t even know who the people were…can’t remember that. People are there to visit YOU, not your four walls. Yeah for Pete!

  4. 6

    What an inspirational post! You were speaking right to me “-) We have three teenage boys and one son in college. Our home is not large. We seem to spend all the time together in basically two rooms -the kitchen and the living room. I still hyperventalate if anyone comes over , even a teen ager ( that could really care less) I need to open our home because Lord knows our hearts know what we need to do.

  5. 7

    I really enjoyed this post. We can get so involved in the little things and forget that the people are coming to see US, not our house. It’s wonderful you were able to see past it and enjoy your family! Thanks for sharing with us.

    I wish you a great Christmas and a season filled with love, laughter, and time with family!

  6. 8

    Ok…you hit a nerve with that one. Kinda pinched, but a good kind.
    Family/Friends only need an 1.invitation and to 2.feel welcome once crossing the threshold.
    With the passing of my father in law last week, this wee house has held 20+ almost daily. Your words and encouragement are timely. Thank you for the reminder that it’s a matter of the heart!

  7. 9

    I love this post!!! I often do not show as much hospitality as I have in my heart because the condition of my place. I am encouraged that I am not alone and I will continue to stay open minded to opening my doors as well as my heart to others.


  8. 10

    We regularly host large groups of college students from our campus ministry in our house, and it’s taught me to enjoy hosting and relax. Granted, college students would eat anything beyond Raman Noodles with appreciation, so it’s truly a win-win set-up.

    Great post.

  9. 11

    This is spot on! As a mom of 8 kids and 5,000 square feet, can I just encourage all of you with smaller homes/families for a sec? We are rarely, if ever, invited to other people’s homes. We’re an intimidating group of 10, plus because of our large home we tend to be the ones to throw the parties/host all the teens/have other families over.

    Recently, however, a young couple with 4 little daughters had us over for dinner in their home with under 1800 sq ft. Most of us sat on the couch or floor and ate with plates on our laps. The food was Costco lasagna and bagged salad and you know what? WE DIDN’T CARE. We were so bowled over by their sweet hospitality and we all had such a ball! It was delightful. Serve me hot dogs- I don’t care- and I’m not looking at your house, anyway ;)

  10. 12

    I love having guests in our home. We live small, in many ways, not just in terms of square footage. But I like to rethink hospitality as a matter of living with an open heart and an open life – and I believe that transcribes into an open home. Great post on hospitality!

  11. 13

    You know, this is so timely for me. This morning in our moms’ group two people shared about opening up their homes to those in need, and I was stricken to realize that my first reaction was to think of the chaos, the loss of privacy, the broken routine, the mess. I have always wanted a beautiful home … but perhaps a home of beauty and belonging is my new goal. I just wrote a post about this (http://buretachi.blogspot.com/2011/12/big-big-house.html) and I am eager to see who God may send my way….. Thanks so much for the challenge to think outside the lines again.

  12. 14

    That is an awesome story! Thank you for sharing so openly with us. I am in a small house and would probably freak if a family wanted to spend one night here. Ha. This is convicting and very sweet. Perhaps I would think differently now. Thank you!

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