01 Sep 2015

Let’s Stop Doing This To Our Friends

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Sometimes I all too aware that conversations can go like this:

Friend: Gah, I’m so sad today. I feel stupid and dumb at my job and there’s this weird nagging loneliness I can’t seem to shake.

Me: (internally thinking: Oh man, I know EXACTLY how that feels – this week has been the WORST. Just wait till I tell her about how I blew that deadline and how I’m sure my boss thinks I’m stupid and why won’t my kids go to bed on time anymore.)

Friend takes a breath: —-

Me: Oh man, I know EXACTLY how that feels – this week has been the WORST. Just wait till I tell you about how I blew that deadline and how I’m sure my boss thinks I’m stupid and why won’t my kids go to bed on time anymore.

Friend: (stranded and without a way to steer the conversation back to the encouragement they so desperately need just feels even lonelier instead).

The thing is, sometimes it’s not our turn to talk.

I’m sharing what I’m learning about it over here on (in)courage today. Just click here to keep reading. 

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  1. 1

    :( Boo… Can’t read the rest of the post because “Access from your Country was disabled by the site administrator.” :(

  2. 3

    Wow. Thankyou for writing this. It’s so true. So challenged.
    x

  3. 4

    Such a great post and great reminder. I realize that I do this a lot with my husband and needed this reminder to stop and just listen to him. I also LOVED your post from yesterday about our kids needing heros. I couldn’t stop thinking about it all day and brought the topic up with a few friends. This is something that we need to talk about more.

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