UPDATED: The randomly selected winner of the Raising Generations ticket was Comment #53 Emily – an email is on its way to you!
My kid came and hugged me good night last night and put his nose up close to mine and peered at me through his glasses – “You’re a great mom,” he grinned up at me.
A great mom.
It’s funny how easy it is to believe the opposite.
My next-door-neighbor is becoming a second home for my boys. If they’re not at my house, they’re at hers. And she and I stood in her door way last night as the snow was blowing in and just shook our heads over the mystery of raising kids. This strange dance. This aching growth.
I’m no parenting expert.
You might be surprised how often I doubt myself. Or then again, maybe you won’t. Because you’re a mom too. And you know that self doubt comes with the territory.
So if you asked me my best parenting advice – it would be this.
The best thing you can do for your kids is to encourage their mother.
Remind her that she matters and that as exhausted or defeated as she might feel some days, she matters.
Moms matter because they feed us the good stuff. Great big helpings of who we could become. They mix us up into themselves and knead us through with answers we may not want to hear and tears we do not want to cry.
Moms matter because they model courage before we are even old enough to recognize it. They get up in the thankless dark and offer bottles, chase away our fears, drive to work, wait on midnight homecomings and keep vigil over sick children to the second and third generation.
Moms matter because their words can crack or cement the foundation of who are – no matter how old we are.
Moms matter because they show us by doing. Their lives echo throughout ours and we will still hear the voice of their living long after they are gone.
Moms matter because they were made to matter.
And if you wish your mom didn’t matter so much. If you wish someone could soften the blow of her impact or soothe the ache of her loss. If you’re a mother who hasn’t figured out her motherhood, oh friend, I would rock you if I could. But instead let me offer my hand. For I would lead you to the One who has always said, “Suffer the little children to come unto me.”
The Christ who was born of a woman, for a woman, from a woman. The Christ child who became the Christ man who spent his dying breaths still loving on his mother.
When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home. John 19:26-27 (New International Version).
He knows what it is to love a mother. He knows what it is to lose a mother.
Moms matter because they matter to Him. In all their righteous and wretched vulnerability. So, on the hard, confusing days let Him be the one to rock you.
Because even grown ups need lullabies sometimes.
And on March 21 & 22nd I’m going to be sharing this and more at the Raising Generations Conference in Corning, New York.
Raising Generations Today is a brand new conference designed to equip and inspire moms to reach the hearts of their children for the glory of God. Through providing valuable resources, inspirational speakers, practical teaching materials, and the connection of moms in every season of parenting, Raising Generations Today will offer hope to women so that they may embrace and thrive in their roles as moms.
I’m so looking forward to being there to encourage fellow moms, because sometimes that’s the best thing we can do for our kids – encourage their moms.
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