“The thing is, there is no road map. No matter how many stories you’ve heard. No matter how many books you’ve read. Motherhood is like learning to walk again, and the only way to do it is by falling down a lot. Because you’re becoming someone else, and your stretched and broken skin can itch with the strangeness of it.”~ Surprised by Motherhood.


Welcome to week 3 of the Book Club. Here’s how it works each week:

Every Monday: Discussion video posted on the blog – feel free to leave your questions in the comments.

Every Wednesday: A discussion around some of your questions on the blog.

Every Friday: A Free, Useful, help-you-hold-onto-your-sanity Printable posted on the blog for all book club readers.

OK, happy Tuesday – I realize we’re a day late this week – so grab yourself a cup of something warm and a few quiet minutes of mom-time alone and read along with me.


Chp 6: Because Sometimes Becoming a Mom Is like Moving to a Foreign Country

Chp 7: There Is No Road Map

{If you haven’t already – you can pick up a copy over here.}


Chapters 6 & 7: I got to chat with two women who have mothered and shaped and taught me and who were among the very first to read the book before it came out.

Book Club week 3

Jennifer Dukes Lee is a farmer’s wife, mom to two girls who are changing the world for a community in Haiti and author of the beautiful book, Love Idol.

Jacque Watkins is a labor and delivery nurse the person I had in mind when I wrote my love for the work those women do in the sacred space of the maternity rooms.

Click here if you can’t see the video.


Take a few moments today to think through the questions below and feel free to share your answers in the comments. Or use them as you talk through the book in your MOPS group or with your book club.

Chapter 6

  • At what point in your life did you realize that you actually wanted to have kids?
  • Who have been some of the most influential women in your life, when it comes to the views and practices of motherhood?
  • When and how did you come to believe that motherhood could be good? Did you ever have any childhood impressions that turned you off from motherhood altogether?
  • Lisa-Jo writes about how her new stepmom brought renewed life and vigor to their family. Can you think of a similar experience in your own life, where God has used someone to breathe fresh life into your home?
  • How might you take up the challenge to open up your life to others, and in so doing, show them the gospel, as Lisa-Jo’s family has done in South Africa?

Chapter 7

  • In your experience, how was becoming a parent like breaking up with yourself?
  • What are some of the most embarrassing moments you’ve experienced in your role as a mom?
  • Has the word ‘mother’ grown more comfortable for you now? If so, at what point and how did that happen?

Scripture passage for this week:

“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” (Isaiah 40:11)

A few favorite quotes:

“The books … were silent when it came to the how-tos for me. How to feel about this change, how to love this tiny tyrant …. No parenting book spelled out in neat bullet points how to wrap my head around what I’d lost and, even more, what I’d gained.” (pp. 82-83)

Becoming a parentis a lot likeBreaking

“Like a pair of saggy old jeans on a Sunday afternoon, the word mother fits more comfortably now.” (p. 89)

OK, YOUR TURN – share your answers and observations in the comments – let’s crowd source encouragement for this journey deep into the heart of motherhood together.

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