If you give a mouse a cookie

If you give a mouse a cookie

If you give a kid a bucket, he will want to fill it with dirt. If you give a kid some dirt, he’ll want to mix it with water. If you give a kid some water, he will pour it all over himself. If you give a kid some paper towels to wipe up the spills, he will unroll...

When the walls are closing in

He comes to find me in the dark. Eyes squinted against my bedside lamp, he whispers, “Mama. Mama I gotta be by you.” Bad dreams and hot summer nights drive him out of his bed, down the hallway and into mine. And I, I who crave space like oxygen at the end...

When being a family feels like home

The ceiling fan spins above us. Lazy but effective. It’s hot, humid, summer. And we are adrift in a big bed – the one with no frame or headboard. The one we’ve had thirteen years now. White sheets billow soft around us. Me and him. We share the sacred moment of the...
Learning to be OK with messy days

Learning to be OK with messy days

Some days your kid spits at the preschool director. Some days your kid who is supposed to be showing off how very ready he is for preschool flings pencils instead and declares, “You bad lady!” to the woman you had hoped he’d impress. Some days you...
Learning to be OK with messy days

How to really enjoy other people

Interesting, isn’t it, how many of us are afraid of our bathing suits? And then there are our jeans, our noses, our dress sizes, our cooking skills, our choices about what diapers to put on our kids, whether we will make our own baby food, our kids’ behavior, our...